I know this shouldn't bother me, but I was almost in tears today over it.

As you know, SC and I are getting married in 2014.  While that may seem like a long way off, we agreed that we wanted to wait until both of us had graduated from college and found a place to live before the wedding.  Most people I tell this to have been very understanding, but there are others who keep telling me I should "shop around, just in case."

It hurts a lot to be honest, but I think that should go without saying.  However, apparently, it's been getting to me more than I first thought.

Earlier today, I was telling a fellow church member about how I was planning on saving up enough money for my dress this summer, and he asked me about what SC was going to wear.  I told him that I was thinking we should buy a suit since he doesn't have one.  Then he proceeded to tell me that that was stupid, and that it really doesn't matter what the groom wears.  He completely missed the point of me saying that I thought it would be something nice for him to have, wedding or not.

It's like these people- not the more supportive ones, mind you- have no idea what our relationship is about.  They don't understand that it's not about being "good enough" for the other person or doing things because that's the way they've always been done.  Being the bride, it's acceptable for me to buy a new dress that most women wear only once in their lives, but as the groom, SC has to rent a suit which he could wear again?

Where do I even begin in saying how wrong this all sounds?

~ Peace and Love

Level 1

[ ] Smoked a Cigarette (I tried to, and couldn't even bring it to my lips before I gave it back.  I was drunk, but not THAT drunk, apparently.)

[x] Kissed a member of the same sex (and I liked it!)

[x] Drank Alcohol

SO FAR: 2

 

Level 2

[x] Are / Been In Love

[ ] Been Dumped

[ ] Shoplifted

[ ] Been Fired

[x] Been In a Fist Fight (Wasn't a serious one, though.)

So FAR: 4

 

Level 3

[x] Had a Crush on an Older Person

[x] Skipped School

[ ] Slept With a Co-worker

[x] Seen Someone / Something Die (It's not so bad after a while.  You just learn to accept that all people and things pass away some day.)

SO FAR: 7

 

Level 4

[ ] Had / Have a Crush on One of Your Facebook Friends

[ ] Been To Paris

[ ] Been To England

[ ] Been On a Plane

[ ] Thrown Up From Drinking

SO FAR: 7

 

Level 5

[x] Eaten Sushi

[ ] Been Snowboarding

[x] Met Someone BECAUSE Of Facebook/ MySpace/MXit (Well, first there was Dave on Xanga, then it was Mage, Scarlet, Jean, and a whole bunch of other people on fanfiction.net)

[x] Been in a Mosh Pit

SO FAR: 10

 

Level 6

[x] Taken Pain Killers

[x] Loved/Liked Someone Who You Can't Have (Oh, so many many times...)

[x] Laid On Your Back and Watched Cloud Shapes Go By

[x] Made a Snow Angel

SO FAR: 14

 

Level 7

[ ] Had a Tea Party

[x] Flown a Kite

[x] Built a Sand Castle

[ ] Gone Mudding

[x] Played Dress Up

SO FAR: 17

 

Level 8

[x] Jumped Into a Pile of Leaves

[x] Gone Sledding

[x] Cheated While Playing a Game

[x] Been Lonely

[x] Fallen Asleep At Work / School (My coworkers were nice enough to let me sleep for about a half hour over Cheeseburger.  How I loved them for it.)

SO FAR: 22

 

Level 9

[x] Watched the Sun Set

[ ] Felt an Earthquake

[x] Held a Snake

SO FAR: 24

 

Level 10

[x] Been Tickled

[ ] Been Robbed / Vandalized

[ ] Been Cheated On

[x] Been Misunderstood (Who hasn't?)

SO FAR: 26

 

Level 11

[x] Won a Contest (Take that, Matt Blacker!)

[ ] Been Suspended From School

[ ] Had Detention

[ ] Been In a Car / Motorcycle crash

SO FAR: 27

 

Level 12

[ ] had/have braces

[ ] Eaten a Whole Pint of Ice Cream in One Night (I almost did, though.)

[x] Danced In the Moonlight

SO FAR: 28

 

Level 13

[x] Hated the Way You Look

[x] Witnessed a Crime

[ ] Pole Danced

[x] Questioned Your Heart

[x] Been Obsessed With Post It Notes

SO FAR: 32

 

Level 14

[x] Squished Barefoot Through the Mud (Also made it into a Slip 'n' Slide!)

[x] Been Lost (It's embarrassing how bad my sense of direction is.)

[ ] Been To the Opposite Side of the World

[ ] Swam In the Ocean (Never will either.  I don't care how rare shark attacks are; they're not the only things to be afraid of down there!)

[x] Felt Like You Were Dying

SO FAR: 35

 

Level 15

[x] Cried Yourself to Sleep

[x] Played Cops and Robbers

[x] Recently Colored With Crayons / Colored Pencils / Markers

[x] Sang Karaoke

[x] Paid For a Meal with Only Coins

SO FAR: 40

 

Level 16

[x] Done Something You Told Yourself You Wouldn't

[ ] Made Prank Phone Calls

[ ] Laughed Until Some Kind of Beverage Came Out Of Your Nose

[x] Kissed In the Rain (It's not really as sexy as it looks in my opinion.)

SO FAR: 42

 

Level 17

[x] Written a Letter to Santa Claus

[x] Watched the Sun Set and/or Sun Rise With Someone You Care/Cared About

[x] Blown Bubbles

[x] Made a Bonfire on the Beach or Anywhere

SO FAR: 46

 

Level 18

[ ] Crashed a Party

[x] Have Traveled More Than 5 Days with A Car Full Of People

[x] Gone Roller-skating / Blading

[x] Had a Wish Come True (Got to be with the man I love.)

SO FAR: 49

 

Level 19

[ ] Worn Pearls

[ ] Jumped Off a Bridge

[ ] Swam With Dolphins

SO FAR: 49

 

Level 20

[ ] Got Your Tongue Stuck To a Pole/Freezer/Ice Cube

[ ] Kissed a Fish

[x] Worn the Opposite Sex's Clothes (I prefer it a lot of times.  They're just so damn comfy!)

[x] Sat On a Roof Top

SO FAR: 52

 

Level 21

[x] Screamed At the Top of Your Lungs

[ ] Done / Attempted a One-Handed Cartwheel

[x] Talked On the Phone for More Than 4 Hours

[x] Recently Stayed Up For A While Talking To Someone You Care About

SO FAR: 55

 

Level 22

[x] Picked and Ate an Apple Right Off the Tree

[x] Climbed a Tree (I'm like a cat, though.  I can't always get myself down.)

[x] Had/Been In a Tree House

[x] Been Scared To Watch Scary Movies Alone

SO FAR: 59

 

Level 23

[x] Believe In Ghosts

[x] Streaking

[x] Visited a Jail (A haunted jail at that!)

SO FAR: 62

 

Level 24

[x] Played Chicken (And won, baby!)

[ ] Been Told You're Hot by a Complete Stranger (It actually bothers me sometimes that it hasn't happened.  I have been called a dyke just because I wear a bandanna, though?)

[x] Broken a Bone (Granted, it was my toe, but it still hurt!)

[x] Been Easily Amused (This defines my sense of humor.)

SO FAR: 65

 

Level 25

[x] Caught a Fish Then Ate It Later

[ ] Made a Porn Movie (Like anyone would want to watch that!)

[x] Caught a Butterfly

[x] Laughed So Hard You Cried (Usually is what happens.)

[x] Cried So Hard You Laughed

SO FAR: 69

 

Level 26

[ ] Mooned/Flashed Someone

[ ] Had Someone Moon/Flash You (TJ doesn't count.)

[ ] Cheated On a Test

[x] Forgotten Someone's Name

[ ] French Braided someone’s Hair

[x] Gone Skinny Dipping (With Katie and Barbie in my pool.  Also in the lake at Sleeper State Park before TJ had to ruin all my fun. >:( )

[ ] Been Kicked Out Of Your House (Kind of but not really?)

SO FAR: 71

 

Level 27

[x] Rode a Roller Coaster

[ ] Went Scuba-Diving/Snorkeling

[x] Had a Cavity

[ ] Black-Mailed Someone

[ ] Been Black Mailed

SO FAR: 73

 

Level 28

[ ] Been Used

[x] Fell Going up The Stairs

[x] Licked by a Cat

[x] Bit Someone (Hard enough to draw blood, too!)

[x] Licked Someone

SO FAR: 77

 

Level 29

[ ] Been Shot At/or At Gunpoint

[x] Had Sex in the Rain

[ ] Flattened Someone’s Tires

[x] Driven Your Car until the Fuel Light Came On

[x] Got $20 or Less Worth Of Fuel

Total: 80

TOTAL: 80